WPC- Ҙep~Ҙy1x:ZqFIYߕj (p#~* GgKa=A}5tQk);o@En'_lo\9ᅏ/>B/lÝnVF_I"?d7Eix"J{4]n9``L8{ExMhlf΍4ո; "C#B YrpC&;"K᰻Oo /JQ tUa"v*_ez5uY6vZF<2Q/JD*VJ[0Lj\p? > ZDd Ɇpl -M+0[Ѱ2F2.aT(Qֲ]%$GQaҎzax=|K8}r wz0Whgk%rR/Y7U>@ 0 0  0  0  0  0 0 0 0" 0& 0$ 0 0 0 0  0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0! 0n" 0 >" 0+V-# 0# 0`$ 0%X=% 0% 0& 0:&^ & 0&w' 0'UJ(( 0(#)UNd, %,M,(,N,4,, m,\  `&Times New Roman' General and Specific Time Sharing Issues Ben Hodas0rjscher .   2[+X 0_level1   , 8.4 <DL!823  ..   5+ 4 <DL!5  2X+X 0_level2   X 5+4 44 <DL!523  ..   5+ 4 <DL!5  2X+X 0_level3    5+` ` ` <DL!523  ..   5+ 4 <DL!5  2U+X 0_level4    2( <DL!223  ..   5+ 4 <DL!5  2U+X 0_level5    2( <DL!223  ..   5+ 4 <DL!5  2R+X 0_level6    /% <DL!/23  ..   5+ 4 <DL!5  2R+X 0_level7   4 /% <DL!/23  ..   5+ 4 <DL!5  2O+X 0_level8   ` ,"< <<DL!,23  ..   5+ 4 <DL!5  2O+X 0_level9    ,"h hhDL!,23  ..   5+ 4 <DL!5  2[X 0_levsl1   , 8.4 <DL!823  Ԁ   5+ 4 <DL!5  2XX 0_levsl2   X 5+4 44 <DL!523  Ԁ   5+ 4 <DL!5  2XX 0_levsl3    5+` ` ` <DL!523  Ԁ   5+ 4 <DL!5  2UX 0_levsl4    2( <DL!223  Ԁ   5+ 4 <DL!5  2UX 0_levsl5    2( <DL!223  Ԁ   5+ 4 <DL!5  2RX 0_levsl6    /% <DL!/23  Ԁ   5+ 4 <DL!5  2RX 0_levsl7   4 /% <DL!/23  Ԁ   5+ 4 <DL!5  2OX 0_levsl8   ` ,"< <<DL!,23  Ԁ   5+ 4 <DL!5  2OX 0_levsl9    ,"h hhDL!,23  Ԁ   5+ 4 <DL!5  2[X 0_levnl1   , 8.4 <DL!823     5+ 4 <DL!5  2XX 0_levnl2   X 5+4 44 <DL!523     5+ 4 <DL!5  2XX 0_levnl3    5+` ` ` <DL!523     5+ 4 <DL!5  2UX 0_levnl4    2( <DL!223     5+ 4 <DL!5  2UX 0_levnl5    2( <DL!223     5+ 4 <DL!5  2RX 0_levnl6    /% <DL!/23     5+ 4 <DL!5  2RX 0_levnl7   4 /% <DL!/23     5+ 4 <DL!5  2OX 0_levnl8   ` ,"< <<DL!,23     5+ 4 <DL!5  2OX 0_levnl9    ,"h hhDL!,23     5+ 4 <DL!5  <:Default ParaXXX(  &c2    ( &p3 5     5 *[X (p18  #   8.4 <DL!8    5+ 4 <DL!5  *[X (p25  #   8.4 <DL!8    5+ 4 <DL!5  * (p17 #     # 0> .Header !>44 <DL!>0> .Footer !>44 <DL!>:8Page NumberT,5 (2$ -!..      /X8HXX/XX8HXX/X8H  (2$ -!..      /X8HXX/XX8HXX/X8H  ݳkIA`2WP TypographicSymbols#|x($..      /X!<XX/XX!<XX/X!<hp photosmart 7700 seriesTT0(9 Z6Times New Roman Regular/X,5:i+00U -!..      /X8HXX/XX8HXX/X8H  _TRX3'LetterX3' Letter3'LetterX!<XX/XX!<XX/X!< 3'LetterT     XX88HXXdd8      E14 <DL!XE    GeneralandSpecificTimeSharingIssuesforthe6݌  Ќ         ParentsofChildrenofDivorce݌  Ќ       w  &r%XX8Hw݌̌       K+ 4 <DL!4X!K   BASICASSUMPTIONSANDGOALS ݌ O Ќ   5   H14 <DL!X!H "r X8HX%&rFollowingadivorceorseparation,parentsshouldcooperateintheireffortstohelptheir E childrencontinuetogrowemotionally,socially,andintellectually,andtoensurethattheir  + childrencontinuetohavemeaningfulrelationshipswithboththeparentwithwhomthey   primarilylive(the+X_ XXX8HAX8HXX+X_ primarycaregiver+X_ XXX8H@X8HXX+X_ Ԁor+X_ XXX8HAX8HXX+X_ primaryresidentialparent+X_ XXX8H@X8HXX+X_ )andwiththeirother   parent(the+X_ XXX8HAX8HXX+X_ secondarycaregiver+X_ XXX8H@X8HXX+X_ Ԁortheir+X_ XXX8HAX8HXX+X_ secondaryresidentialparent+X_ XXX8H@X8HXX+X_ ).    # #5    Q14 <DL!4X!Q#     TheParentalTimeSharingSchedulesareintendedtominimizetheharmdonetochildren w   whentheirparentsdivorceorseparate.Theyarewrittenfromthestandpointofchildrensneeds ]  andattemptstoguideparentsseekingtomeetthebestinterestsoftheirchildrenandtheyare C  intendedonlyasadefaultintheeventthepartiescannotagreetoavisitationarrangement.# 1 ݌ )y  Ќ  5#  # #5    #c     Indevelopingschedulesforcontactbetweenchildrenandtheirparentsfollowinga _  separationordivorce,thefollowingfactorsneedtobeconsidered:#c ݌ E  Ќ  5#  5Q14 <DL!4X!Q"  #  N.4 <DL!4X!N  K.4 <DL!4X!K"   A.    MinimizeLoss" ݌  Ќ #  34X!4X!3   # #    Q14 <DL!4X!Q#  Childrenexperiencedivorceasaseriesofsignificantlosses.Toachild,divorcemeanslosing  home,familylife,lovingparentswhocareabouteachother,pets,financialsecurity, s relationshipswithextendedfamily,familiarschools,sportsactivities,andadailyschedule. Y Childrenoftenfeelabandonedanduprooted.Thedisruptingeffectofdivorceontheirlivescan ? haveprofoundconsequencesforchildrenastheyreachadulthood.Respectyourchildrenspain %u byeliminatingasmanychangesandlossesaspossible.#`݌  [ Ќ  #  !  #  N.4 <DL!4X!N  K.4 <DL!4X!K!M  B.    MaximizeRelationships!M)݌ ' Ќ #  34X!4X!3   # #    Q14 <DL!4X!Q#  Itisimportanttoencourageallrelationshipswhichexistedbetweenyourchildrenandothers  beforethedivorce(bothparents,grandparents,aunts,uncles,cousins,closeadultfriends,etc.).  Yourchildrenwillmostlikelykeepthefeelingoffamilywhentheycontinuetohavepleasant, o freeaccesstobothparentsandextendedfamily.Yourchildrensidentitydependsontheir U  feelingthattheybelongtobothfamilies.Thisidentityrequiresthatyourchildrenspendtime ;!  withbothsidesofthefamily.Ifyourchildrenlosecontactwithpartsoftheirfamily,theirsense !"q! ofidentitycanbedistorted,evencrippled.Treasuretheinvolvementofextendedfamilyinyour #W" childrenslives.#݌ #=# Ќ  #  # #    #S  Itisalsoessentialtoencourageandsupporttheotherparentinacceptinganactiveparenting $# $ rolewhichincludessharingtheburdenofresponsibilities(laundry,transportation,doctorvisits, % !% teacherconferences,etc.)aswellasthejoyousoccasions(holidays,birthdaysparties,movies, &!& sportsoutings,trips,etc.).Respectthebasicnatureortemperamentofyourchildren,aswellas '"' thetemperamentalmatchorfitbetweeneachchildandeachparent.Considerthematchofeach k(#( parentsinterestsandeachchildsactivities.Provideasmuchdirectcontactandpositive Q)$) involvementaspossiblebetweeneachchildandeachparent.Whenparentsareabletoremainin 7*%* thesamegeographicallocation,relationshipsaremorelikelytobemaximized.#S݌ +m&+ Ќ  #  # #    #  Nevermakeyourchildrenfeelguiltyaboutenjoyingtheirtimewiththeirotherparent; ,S',  enjoymentofthattimeisatributetothesecuritythatbothyouandtheotherparenthave_instilled ,9(- inyourchildrenandsuggeststhatyourchildrenarelearningtotrustandexploreawiderangeof  healthyrelationships.#݌     #  # #    #   Reassureyourchildrenthattheyarenottoblameforthedivorceandthatbothparentsstill | lovethem.Avoidblamingtheotherparent(itisdestructivetochildrenssecurityandself b conceptswhentheyarecompelledto+X_ XXX8H_AX8HXX+X_ take_Ԁsides+X_ XXX8H@X8HXX+X_ Ԁafteradivorce).Youshouldalsoavoid H confidingdetailsofyourmaritalproblemstoyourchildren;althoughtheymayinitiallywantthe 0  detailsandmaywanttoalleviateyourpain/angerby+X_ XXX8H_AX8HXX+X_ taking_Ԁsides+X_ XXX8H@X8HXX+X_ Ԁwithyou,theymay  f ultimatelyresentyouforconfusingthemandincreasingtheiranxietiesabouttheirfreedomto  N loveandrelatecomfortablytobothoftheirparents.# ݌  4 Ќ  #  #     ! # #  N.4 <DL!4X!N  K.4 <DL!4X!K!%  C.    IncreaseSecurity!%&݌   Ќ #  34X!4X!3 #  ## #    Q14 <DL!4X!Q#|'  Yourchildrenarelikelytofeelprotectedfromlosseswhenallowedtoremaininthesafety, |  consistency,andsupportofold,familiarsurroundings.Childrenfeelsecurewhentheyhave b  positivetimewithbothparents,thefamiliarityofestablishedfamilyrules,aswellasbeing H  allowedtocontinueinpreviouslyestablishedreligious,school,andrelatedactivities.Children .~  dobestwhentheirparentsliveproximatetooneanother,especiallyiftheysharethesameschool d district.Childrencanthenhavethereassuranceoffamiliarafterschoolfriendsatbothparents J homes.Childrenalsofeelmostsecurewhentheirparentsshareresponsibilityfortheirafter 0 schoolcare.Parentsneedtotalkaboutwaystobuildcertainty,structure,andstabilityintheir  childrenslives.#|'(݌  Ќ  #  #   ! # #  N.4 <DL!4X!N  K.4 <DL!4X!K!Y,  D.    AvoidConflict!Y,5-݌ x Ќ #  34X!4X!3 #  ## #    Q14 <DL!4X!Q#".  Scientificresearchverifiesthatyourchildrenwillsufferbothnowandlateriftheyfrequently D seetheirparentsinconflict.Raisedvoices,arguing,hatefulremarks,andphysicalaltercations *z arenotsuitableforchildviewing.Childrenarealsoharmedwhentheyhearoneparentsaybad ` thingsabouttheotherparent.Ifoneparentdirectlyorindirectlycreatesanimageoftheother F parentthatisinanywaynegative,thechildsownselfimagewillbeassaulted.Childrenwill , onlyfeelasgoodaboutthemselvesastheydoabouteachparent.#"..݌  Ќ  #  # #    #1  Agoodprocedurefordivorced/separatedparentstofollowistonevertrytodiscusschild  issuesandadultissuesinthesameconversation.Whenyouaretalkingwithyourformerspouse   aboutchildissues(schedulingvisits,vacationplans,schoolormedicalproblems,etc.),stickto t!  thosetopicsanddonotallowtheconversationtodriftintodiscussionsofproblemsbetweenyou Z"! andyourformerspouse(money,angryissues,etc.).Savethosetopicsforanotherdiscussionat @#" anothertimeandneverdiscusstheminthepresenceofyourchildren.Ifyouandyourchildrens &$v# otherparentsimplycannotavoidfightingandarguingwhenyoubegin/endvisits,youmight  %\ $ wanttoconsiderenlistingthehelpofanotherperson(grandparent,mutualfriend,babysitter, %B!% etc.)whowillagreetoserveasa+X_ XXX8H_AX8HXX+X_ neutral_Ԁzone+X_ XXX8H@X8HXX+X_ Ԁwherebothparentscanbringthechildrenfor &("& transferandavoidcontactwitheachother.#11݌ '#' Ќ  #  # #    #07  Itisencouragedthateachparentinvolvehimselfandherselfinschoolfunctionsinwhichthe (#( minorchild(_ren_)isengaged.Indoingso,theparentsshouldmakeeveryefforttoact )$) appropriatelysoasnottoembarrasstheminorchildinthepresenceofhisorherpeers.#07e7݌ r*%* Ќ  #  # #    #49  #49i9݌ X+&+ Ќ  #  !  #  N.4 <DL!4X!N  K.4 <DL!4X!K!9  E.    AgerelatedNeeds!9:݌  Ќ #  34X!4X!3     5    Q14 <DL!4X!Q ;  Childrenofdifferentagesneedandbenefitfromdifferentparentingarrangements. | Parentsshouldtrytobeflexibleandshouldtrytotailortheirschedulesasmuchaspossibleto b reflecttheirchildrensdevelopmentalneedsandindividualrequirements.Youcanexpectthat,as H yourchildrengetolder,youwillneedtobemoreflexibleandwillneedtoworkhardat . ~ communicatingeffectivelyandcompromisingfairlywithbothyourchildrenandtheirother  d parent. ;"<݌  J Ќ  5    5     >  Whenpartiesaretheparentsofinfantstheprimaryresidentialparentshouldpromote  0 consistencyinthechild(_ren_)snutritionandenvironmentbysupplyingitemssuchastheinfants    formula,clothing,blankets,pacifier,wipes,toys,andinfantcarseattothesecondaryresidential    parentasmaybeneeded. >?݌   Ќ  5    Q14 <DL!4X!Q !  #  N.4 <DL!4X!N  K.4 <DL!4X!K!wA  F.    RightofFirstRefusal!wASB݌ ^  Ќ #  34X!4X!3   !  #  N.4 <DL!4X!N  K.4 <DL!4X!K!?C  !?CD݌ D  Ќ #  34X!4X!3     5    Q14 <DL!4X!Q D  Ifeitherparentintendstobeabsentfromthehomeovernightduringtimesharingwiththe *z  child(_ren_)whichwouldrequirechildcarearrangements(i.e.babysitter),he/sheshouldgivethe ` otherparenttheoptionofhavingtimesharingwiththechild(_ren_)forthenightinquestion. DWE݌ F Ќ  5    5     LG  Ifeitherparenthastimesharingduringanonspecifiedholiday,includingbutnotlimited , toteacherplanningdays,andthatparentintendstoleavethechild(_ren_)for3hoursormorewith  ababysitter,daycareworker,orpersonotherthanafamilymember,thatparentshouldgivethe  otherparenttheoptionofhavingtimesharingwiththechild(_ren_)forthenonspecifiedholiday.  Theparentwhohastheoptionoftimesharingwiththechild(_ren_)shouldnotifytheotherparent t whetherhe/sheintendstoexercisetheoptionwithinareasonabletimeoflearningoftheoption Z tohavetimesharing. LGG݌ @ Ќ  5    5    5 #K   #KfK݌̌      5    5 K  G.  ReintroductionofAbsentParent KL݌  \ Ќ      5    5 L   LL݌̌      5    5Q14 <DL!4X!Q JM    Thevisitationguidelinesassumeeachparenthasbeenacontinuouspresenceintheminor ( child(_ren_)slife.Intheeventaparenthaslimitedornocontactwithhis/herchild(_ren_)and  wishestobereintegratedintothechild(_ren_)slife,itisnotalwaysinthebestinterestofthe  minorchild(_ren_)toimmediatelybeginvisitingwiththatparentpursuanttotheModelParental   TimeSharingSchedule.Assuch,thepartiesshouldattempttocreateanalternatevisitationplan p!  toallowforagradualreintegration. JMM݌ V"! Ќ      5    Q14 <DL!, X!Q NQ   NQQ݌ <#" Ќ  5  !  #  N.4 <DL!4X!N  K.4 <DL!4X!K!FR  H.    Cancellations!FR"S݌ "$r# Ќ #  34X!4X!3   #   Q14 <DL!4X!Q %X $ Ifaparentwishestocanceltimesharingperiods,he/sheshoulddosobyprovidingtheother %>!% parentnoticeatleast14dayspriortothetimesharingperiodwhichtheparentwishestocancel. &$"& Cancellationofaspecifictimesharingperiodoflongerthan72hoursindurationshouldonly ' #' occurwiththeconsentofbothparents.Ifthecancellationofaspecifictimesharingperiodisnot (#( agreedtobybothparents,theparentseekingtocanceltimesharingshouldarrangeand/orpay )$) forbabysitting,childcareorotherappropriatesupervisionofthechildforthetimesharing l*%* period. R+&+  # I.    MediationbeforeLitigation    Intheeventthepartiesareunabletoagreetodisputesconcerningvisitation,itisencouraged b thattheymediatetheirdisputesbeforeapplyingtothecourtforresolution.  H    5    5  Q14 <DL!4X!Q X  SHAREDPARENTALRESPONSIBILITY XJY݌  d Ќ      5    5   Y   Y2Z݌̌      5     Z  TheParentalTimeSharingSchedulesassumethatparentsarepreparedtosharethe  0 difficultresponsibilityofraisingchildreninseparatehomesandarematureandresponsible    enoughtodoso.Sharedparentalresponsibilitymeansthateachparenthasfullrightsandduties    withrespecttotheirchild(_ren_).Infact, itisthepublicpolicyof[theStateofFlorida]toassure   thateachminorchildhasfrequentandcontinuingcontactwithbothparentsaftertheparents x  separateorthemarriageofthepartiesisdissolvedandtoencourageparentstosharetherights, ^  responsibilities,andjoys,ofchildrearing.FloridaStatute61.13(2)(b)1.Theparentsmust D  conferwitheachothersothatmajordecisionsaffectingthechild(_ren_)aremadejointly,unless *z  specifiedotherwisebyagreementofthepartiesorOrderoftheCourt.Issuesdealingwithschool, ` discipline,religiousupbringing,andhealthareexamplesofareaswheretheparentsmustconfer. F Eachparentisentitledtothechildsmedical,dental,andschoolrecords.FloridaStatute+X_ XXX8H'X8HXX+X_ 61.13 , (2)(b)(3)specificallyrequiresthat+X_ XXX8H_AX8HXX+X_ access_Ԁtorecordsandinformationpertainingtoaminorchild,  including,butnotlimitedtomedicalrecordsmaynotbedeniedtoaparentbecausetheparentis  notthechildsprimaryresidentialparent.+X_ XXX8H@X8HXX+X_  ZZ݌  Ќ  5    5     b  TheParentalTimeSharingSchedulesaredesignedtohelpaccomplishthreegoals:1)to z ensurethatchild(_ren_)ofparentswhodonotlivetogetherwillhaveanopportunitytodevelopa ` relationshipwitheachparentthatwillbelovingandmeaningful,2)topermiteachparentto F spendasmuchqualitytimewiththeirchildrenasisconsistentwiththechildsdevelopmental ,| needs,and3)togiveguidancetotheparentsastowhatisexpectedofthemregardingtheir b obligationstotheotherparent. bb݌ H Ќ  5    5     e  IfaParentalTimeSharingScheduleistobesuccessful,therelationshipbetweenthe . parentsmustbebusinesslike.THECHILD(REN)SHOULDNOTTOBEEXPOSEDTO  HOSTILITY,CONFLICT,RECRIMINATIONS,ORARGUMENTBETWEEN  HIS/HER/THEIRPARENTS.FURTHERMORE,THECHILD(REN)SHOULDNOTTOBE   USEDASAMESSENGERSERVICETHROUGHWHOMTHEPARENTS v!  COMMUNICATEWITHEACHOTHER.Thus,theparentsshouldbecourteousandrespectful \"! ofeachother.Thegoaloftheparentsshouldbetoprovidethechild(_ren_)asafe,secure,loving B#" environmentinwhichhis/herdevelopmentasahumanbeingisthepriorityofthosewhobrought ($x# him/herintotheworld. ee݌ %^ $ Ќ  5    5K+ 4 <DL!4X!K %D!%  &*"&   5H14 <DL!X!H( Note:ThisisnotintendedtobeanOrderoftheCourt) '#' September_2006__ ___ )$)     K+ 4 <DL!4X!K